Food for thought when planning your honeymoon
The Little Stone Cottage; An Ideal Option for Honeymooners
The wedding day is dreamed about from the time a little girl is aware that one of her missions in life is to find a man to spend the rest of her days with and have beautiful little children together. Women spend long hours thinking of what their wedding day will look like even before they are in a committed relationship moving toward marriage. My husband and I were single into our 30s, so I daydreamed a lot about my wedding day in all my years of singleness.
Interestingly, the wedding day is such a small part of the whole package of marriage, and yet it gets the most attention. How many people spend numerous hours choosing just the right flowers, tasting various cakes to find the perfect one, spending time and money they don’t have to find the dress that will make them feel like a princess. Then in a blink of an eye, it’s all over – you and your spouse can now officially call each other husband and wife, and for those who have had a blessing of saving themselves for the one person God has united them with, you get to have sex! As often as you want…it’s no longer something you have to abstain from and guard your mind about.
Our culture tends to encourage couples to go away to an exotic place or take a trip with lots of adventure for your honeymoon. We looked at the honeymoon very differently because our focus was not to spend lots of money we would have to go in debt for and be on a tight schedule, learning all about the place we were visiting. We chose to learn about each other - in every way – instead and found it a very needed time for just “us.”
It’s been almost 10 years, but I still remember all the little details they prepared for us, from the rose petals going up the stairs, the low lighting, the soft music, the heart-shaped brownies, the bottle of sparkling grape juice and then the hand-written note stating they are cheering us on an praying for us as a couple. This blessed our hearts tremendously! And upon entering, the atmosphere encouraged us to do what we’d been waiting for all those years!
Courtship, wedding planning and making arrangements for housing and jobs after marriage all take a lot of time, energy and focus. Every couple I have ever talked to says marriage planning and the wedding was wonderful but exhausting. We believed that what we needed most was a place without a schedule, where nothing was vying for our time and energy. At the cottage, we found a place where loving each other and drawing ever more closer through conversations, intimacy, cooking together, reading, playing games and just being together was our focus.
I still remember those first moments of getting to know each others’ bodies – it’s not so smooth and easy as some of us may imagine it to be! As everything is new, there’s a lot of clumsiness and laughter in the sheer joy of being free with the one you love. I am very glad we were isolated in this house, with no one to interrupt us and need our attention. I didn’t glance at the clock like I normally do in my daily schedule but was able to just lose myself in learning all about this man God had placed me with for lifelong love and serving and glorifying him together.
The basement was so warm and inviting with the fireplace and sheepskin rug since we were married in January, and there was snow all over the ground as the temperatures were below freezing. The massage table was an addition that we recently used when we returned to celebrate 10 years. Do not miss this opportunity to touch every part of your lover’s body, bringing him or her relaxation from stress. As you serve by putting your all into the massaging motions, I believe God connects you in a very special way. Service is the heart of Jesus, and as we put ourselves aside, we find more of His love for our spouse.
Privacy is key for honeymooners, and the owners of Little Stone Cottage have definitely considered this need. There is a privacy fence in the front so that you can sit on the porch, rocking, listening to the sweet animal sounds and breathe in the fresh farm air. But all the more important is the back deck which houses the hot tub, if your honeymoon isn’t already hot enough! It is especially enjoyable in winter when you feel the cool breeze as you get in and out. They have a privacy wall you can put up and even a large umbrella with lights and candles on the wall for ambience at night. We recently went in the summer and very much enjoyed the table on the deck as a place to eat and play games.
Dining together as newlyweds is delightful as you learn each other’s preferences, and cooking together can really heat things up! The owners provide many natural foods from their farm like eggs, whole milk and granola that are top notch. Anytime I sat at that table set for two, I felt special. There is also an electric wood pellet grill that is quite fun to use together.
One of the most important things I can state about the cottage is how near to the Lord I feel when I am there. I could tell I was being prayed over as our conversations were so enlightening, and there was a comfort level with each other when we returned recently that we hadn’t had in years. I took a lot of time to pray, read the Word, reflect and journal both times I was there. The Spirit is so gracious to gently show me ways I can be a better wife and even things I need to confess to heal my marriage. I spent a lot of time on the swing out back, feeling free as a little girl, watching my toes go back and forth over the pond. I listened to worship music and had a closeness with the Lord I cherish even now as I ponder it.
Your personal relationship with the Father God will directly affect your marriage. If you do not know Him as your first love, as the One who life is lived for, you will be tempted to make your spouse fulfill those needs that only God can or should. In my many single days, I feel the Lord wooed me to Himself and showed me I truly am “complete in Christ who is the head of every power and authority.” (Col. 2:10) This is essential to a healthy marriage. During courtship and the early days of marriage, loving your spouse may come easy, and you may be incredibly gracious with his or her issues. But trying times will come, and you will be stretched. Life, children, work, medical issues, family issues and unexpected happenings will distract you from your marriage, and loving your spouse may at times be hard. Many times women can feel unloved if their husband doesn’t meet all their expectations – whether he knows what they are or not! (That’s a whole other topic!) It is key to have God as your focus and to live every day for Him, not your spouse. While you are there, begin asking Him what He desires for you as a couple to do for Him and His kingdom, and make a plan to do it! As you start life together, serve, love and live with this wonderful person as God directs and teaches you, through the good and bad, the joys and pain, the births of children and the deaths of those you love.
I believe very strongly God’s Spirit is very evident and working at the Little Stone Cottage to draw you closer, to bless the two of you as you connect in every way, to reveal to you His heart for your marriage and your life in Him. Choose to truly get away on your honeymoon to learn all you can about your spouse so that you can enter the ups and down of life together with a deep intimacy in every way. As you face the stresses of everyday life, you will remember these quiet, special moments together when you learned that you are now a chord of three strands – you, your spouse and the Lord (Ecclesiastes 4:12). Your marriage will be stronger and withstand the adversities as you continue to make time even in your everyday life for honest conversations, sweet sexual moments, playing together, serving the Lord as a couple and continually deepening your love for the Lord as you obey His Word.